Friday, April 8, 2016

Give Up A Want to Meet a Need

Continuing on the topic of the last post, I offer an idea to ease some of the suffering of those around us. There are so many people in need.  We may not be able to help everyone, but we can help at least one.

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Would you be willing give up one of your luxuries in order to meet someone else’s basic need? This does not mean giving up something like running water or electricity, but instead, giving up something that would simply be nice to have or do, so that you could have the time and means to help meet the basic needs of another.
There are sixty million refugees worldwide. Many of these people have fled with only the things they could carry, and seek safety in countries that often label them a liability and a burden.  
I believe Jesus Christ has an unconditional compassion for these people, who flee for their lives into a foreign country.  Jesus was once after all, a refugee. As a boy he fled into Egypt, to escape the terrors of King Herod.
In the parable of the sheep and the goats, Jesus tells how the righteous have fed and clothed him, and visited him in times of need.  The righteous then ask when they had done these things. “And the King shall answer and say unto them . . ., Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.” (Matthew 25:40) What then would Jesus have us do for God’s suffering children?
He does not expect us to move a mountain with only a spoon, but he does expect us to cast in our two mites and do what good we can.
Allow me for a moment to leave the refugee crisis and tell you about one of my friends who lives here in America. Last Christmas she put together baskets for her less fortunate neighbors and delivered them with her children.  If you were to see her tiny home, the water they haul to drink, or the wooden outhouse they use, you would think, isn’t she the one in need? Yet, she recognized her blessings and sought to serve those who were in greater need.
I sit at a computer in a heated apartment with working lights and not one, but two, bathrooms. My guess is that many of those reading this find themselves in very similar situations. Clean water, plenty of clothes, a refrigerator full of food, warm bedding- a life full of luxury.
How can we justify spending more money on clothes, eating out, movies and entertainment events, all the things we want and then say that we have nothing to give to those who lack basic necessities?
My challenge to all of my family, friends, and strangers who read this: Give up one of your luxuries to help meet someone else’s basic need.
Instead of browsing the internet or shopping mall for things you want, shop for needed items our brothers and sisters lack and donate them to a facility. Go without drinking soda, get a cheaper phone plan, give up cable, skip going to the movies, turn down your heat a little and donate the savings.
It doesn’t really matter whether you donate to help local refugees, a children’s hospital, the homeless, or even a needy family down the street. What matters is we recognize the blessings God has given us and in gratitude serve others. We are to be Christ’s hands here on earth, and going without a want to help meet a need is a simple and powerful way to start.


What luxury will you give up to help meet someone else’s need?

Wednesday, December 16, 2015

Poverty at the Door


It is amazing how small things can come together to create one big picture. In this case, a big picture of emotion that moves me to do something beyond myself.


First off, I live in a place where the majority of people live in trailers with no foundation, have no indoor plumbing, and their only source of electricity comes from solar panels (if they have been lucky enough to afford them).  We pulled in with our 17 foot moving truck to a newly remodel 3 bedroom apartment, provided by my husband’s employer, with central air, electricity, and running hot water. Some of our neighbors live in a dwelling no longer than that truck.  Talk about wealth disparity and talk about motivation to rid the excess from our home.


While I have continually been amazed at the living conditions of those in our own country of America, my heart was saddened to read about refugees fleeing from their home countries. They left their country with nothing but their lives, their family and the clothes on their backs. Nothing promising awaits them in these foreign countries, no job, no school, only the hope of safety. They come completely reliant on the kindness of others. Their futures uncertain, their fears prominent. Their adversity makes hauling water home look like a blessing.


Perhaps the last straw that brought tears to my eyes and broke my heart came while getting dressed this morning.  While still pondering the condition of the refugees, I looked at the tag of my shirt, bought 2nd hand from a thrift store, and read: made in Cambodia.



 My mind flashed back to a YouTube video I saw, where a young man went to serve the people of Cambodia. The poverty he saw while there was overwhelming. Children going to bed hungry every night because they could not afford a bowl of rice.  How grateful someone must have been, to have a job sewing a shirt so they could earn a little to feed and clothe their family.  Yet, what were their wages? A day of sewing just enough to pay for one meal?  It’s no wonder they call Americans fat. Even our poorest have access to more than those people who live in that country; a forgotten place that most of us have never even heard of.


We live a spoiled life here. After reading the tag, and reflecting on what I know of Cambodia, I felt a little ashamed. Oh, how I have become desensitized to the phrase “Made in China”. Do many of their people struggle too?


Now, I’m not saying we should or should not buy items made in other countries and I have no solution to end world poverty. However, I hope we each take time to pause and reflect on how greatly we have been blessed. This Christmas season, instead of spending our wealth on a gift that adds to our clutter, perhaps we can show a little gratitude by donating to help those in need, whether they are our neighbor or whether they live half a world away.

Merry Christmas everyone!


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Tuesday, December 1, 2015

Our Wants May Not Be What We Need

While looking over the "What You Really Need" Baby List. I thought, "Wow, babies really don't need a whole lot a stuff."  Then the thought entered my mind, "Neither do your children, they need you."

What a humbling thought. How often had I told my toddler to wait when she asked, "Mommy, can you come play?" I had even done it while searching for the perfect Christmas gift for her.  

As Christmas time approaches, I hope we remember our children do not need mountains of gifts. Mostly they need our undivided, loving, attention.

I like how this video discuss joyfully being content with what we have.






Friday, November 20, 2015

Basic Baby Gear List- Only What You Really Need

When one of my middle-aged friend ended up with a surprise pregnancy, we began asking, "What is truly essential?"

On the internet, you can find baby list pages long. With everything from bath tub thermometers to wipe warmers. One can easily become overwhelmed, not to mention spend a fortune, to get all the baby gear they say you "need" to have.

I went online and searched "Minimalist baby gear" to get an idea of what my friend would need.  None of the lists satisfied me, for they were either too incomplete- listing clothes instead of specifics- or a lengthy advertisement- buy this specific brand at this certain store.

What one really needs is so subjective.  A marathon runner may "need" a jogging stroller, while a working mama might "need" 8 different bottles.  So many "essentials" it can be hard to tell what you really need to have and what simply makes life easier. I took the longest minimalist list and simplified it to the what I believe are the true necessities.

A stress trap expecting parents may fall into is thinking they need everything for the first year before baby has even been born.  There are several months between a newborn baby sitting in the bouncer, to the baby crawling towards the top of the stairs.  Also, some items are used only for a few months (baby bath, new born clothes, etc) so buying gently used is a good way to save money.

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Enough rambling, here is my list of true essentials:

MINIMALIST BABY GUIDE

CAR SEAT
Some fancy car seats can cost $300 or more. I found a nice (high rated) car seat using Amazon Warehouse Deals for $70- normally $90- that will last for all the baby and toddler years.

OTHER PLACES TO SET BABY 
swing or bouncer
Baby Carrier- to hold while hands are free. I use a homemade Moby Wrap.

FEEDING (NURSING)
disposable or washable pads for the mama
soothing cream for the mama
pump- even a hand pump for those days you wake up full!
4-6 burp clothes
*my sister argues a boppy is essential much like my brother-in-laws says bibs are, but I'm not convinced.

FEEDING (older baby)
High chair
Baby food grinder (saves money!)
Spoons

DIAPERS & ACCESSORIES*
Newborn diapers (Love the Huggies newborn diapers because of the cut out for the cord)
Baby Wipes
Diaper Rash Cream
Diaper Bag- unless you have a very large purse
Diaper Bag accessories: travel size wipes, small changing pad, hand sanitizer, extra set of clothes for baby 

NURSERY
Crib
Crip mattress 
Chair to sit with /rock baby

BEDDING
2 fitted crib sheets
waterproof crib pad
1-2 Mid-weight blankets/stroller blankets
4-6 receiving/swaddling blankets  
Thick blankets for tummy time or to bundle winter baby if going outside. 
(I think you can never have enough blankets)

HEALTH & OTHER ESSENTIALS
First Aid Kit
Baby health and grooming kit
Teethers

LAYETTE (Clothes)
short sleeve onesies (in NB, o-3, 3-6 mos)
long sleeve onesies (in NB, o-3, 3-6 mos) (if winter baby)
4-6 pants (or dresses if girl)
one nice outfit for picture moments
2-3 sleepers (love ones that have elastic bottoms for easy night-time diaper changes)
4 – 6 pairs of socks
2 – 3 pairs of mittens
hat
Outwear depending on the season
coat/jacket/snowsuit

Some recommend having at least 8 outfits just in case of blow outs.  But let's be honest, you can get gently used baby clothes for cheap at garage sales and thrift stores.  I like to make sure I'm not going to run out before laundry day.  (2-3 outfits per day)

I only buy shoes after they take their first step.

BATHING
Bath tub
hooded towel
4-6 washcloths or a sponge
Baby shampoo
Bath toy


 BOOKS
Any child friendly book!  Board books, cloth books, touch-and-feel books, books!  Contrast like black, red, and white are great for when baby is first born.

I think the library is a great place for elementary kids and up, but baby books often get used as chew toys, so I recommend having a few of your own.  Even new born babies benefit from being read to. So read on!

TOYS 
My babies' favorite toys have been a pot with a lid and a wooden spoon to bang on it, and homemade blocks, or anything they can stack. (Empty juice containers- seriously)

You don't need crazy fancy or mountains of Fisher-Price. The best sensory for a newborn is Mama's smiling, interactive, face!

SAFETY (Not needed when born)
Outlet covers
Cabinet and door latches
Safety gates (if necessary)
Toilet seat locks (or just shut the bathroom door)


*Notice I left diaper pail and changing mat off the list.  For disposable diapers I use the regular garbage for diapers (poopy outside) and just a blanket on the floor for changing.  Unless you are using cloth. Then I would say a good diaper pail is essential!

If you are bottle feeding, you will need formula, a bottle brush, and some bottles.


What do you think should, or should not be, on the list?


Thursday, October 1, 2015

Service

When ye are in the service of your fellow beings ye are only in the service of your God.

Mosiah 2:17


I believe serving each other is an important part of life. While donating money to charities helps, it is not the only way to serve. Here is a list of ideas to get you thinking of what you can do to help others:


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  • Rake leaves or shovel snow for neighbors
  • Chop or stack wood for elderly neighbors
  • Read with children at a literacy center
  • Visit with the elderly at a rest home
  • Walk dogs at a animal shelter
  • Make blankets for various organizations such as the local police or women's shelters
  • Donate and gather food for a food bank 
  • Donate and gather supplies for hygiene kits for women's shelters or needed areas throughout the world
  • Donate your hair- 8-10 inch minimum, depending on the charity.  The three organizations I know of are: Locks of Love, Pantene Beautiful Lengths, and Wigs for Kids.
  • Habitat for Humanity- under the direction of a certified contractor, help build homes for lower income residences who also are doing a large portion of the work.
  • Volunteer at soup kitchen or homeless shelter
  • Mother's Milk Bank- donate human milk for premature babies. I am familiar with the Rocky Mountain Children's Health Foundation Milk Bank, although there are other organizations out there, both profit (research) and non profit based.
  • Cuddle/Hold babies in the hospital
  • Donate blood- okay, not a favorite, but still good to do.
  • Donate Plasma (some organizations pay for this)
  • Bring dinner to a family who just had a baby, major illness, etc
  • Donate stuff for charity yard sales, or the like
  • Free babysitting for a friend
  • Tutor at local school
  • Clear weeds and debris from a park/garden
  • Help plant city flowers
  • Pick up trash in parks
  • Make wooden toys for children in 3rd world countries- or oil them as our family did after our grandpa and grandma made them.
  • Help repaint someone's home, shed, cabin, etc
  • Give excess garden produce away to others 
  • Help someone move
  • Listen when someone needs to talk
  • Refrain from saying something unkind
  • Offer words of encouragement
  • Share your talents with others
  • Maintain a positive attitude

The list of ways to serve could go on and on, this certainly is not a comprehensive list. I am convinced the possibilities to make life better for our fellowmen are endless.

What have been some of your favorite ways to serve?









Tuesday, September 1, 2015

Tip to Keep Closet Clutter Free

Clothes.  They are so easy to accumulate yet so hard to get rid of. Right?  A common piece of advice is if you haven't worn it in a year, get ride of it, donate it, throw it out.  To tell the truth, I hate that piece of advice. It may work for the never changing body, but I tell you I am certainly not throwing out maternity clothes just because I haven't worn them in a year.  I will need those again, and if I have been stuck in maternity/nursing clothes for the good part of a year I am NOT giving up my "normal" clothes.  So for me, that one year rule is more annoying than helpful.

I have heard a slightly more reasonable rule: If you haven't worn it in two of the same season, time to get it out of your closet.  Okay, let's be honest, my favorite jacket is going to win on a cold evening over the hand-me-down one I was given by a former roommate years ago.  Time to get rid of the old jacket and about three others sitting in my closet.

However, here is one trick I use to keep my closet (mostly) clutter free: I don't buy hangers. I suppose it is similar to the one in-one out rule.  If I don't have a hanger to hang it up on, I don't buy it or it's time to get rid of something else.

This does allow my wardrobe to change a bit.  The maternity clothes are currently in a box- not on hangers.  So are the winter clothes.  The only thing in the dresser are things that don't belong on hanger such as socks and gloves.  It has been a great way to save money buy not shoving more and more into my closet and helps with the clutter too.

Monday, August 3, 2015

Stir Fry Sauce




Good with rice or noddle stir fry. This recipe combines ingredients without cooking.  I have heated it and had it as a side option or put it right into the sauce.  Now I use it as a guide but throw whatever else I want into it too.

From Food.com